Steph Zapata
• Sexuality Educator • Speaker
• Community Builder
Sapphic City
Community, Visibility & Play for Sapphics 28+
The S.L.A.M. Conference
BIPOC-Centered Sexuality Education & Social Justice Conference
Sex ED w/ Steph
• Workshops • Speaking Engagements
• Professional Development
Play, Pleasure & Coaching
• Workshops • Relationships
• Personal Growth • 1:1/Couples
• Workshops • Speaking • Coaching
• Consulting • Event Collaborations
About Steph
Hi, I'm Steph Zapata.I'm a nationally recognized sexuality educator, speaker, community builder, and creator of Sapphic City and the S.L.A.M. Conference.My work focuses on sexuality, pleasure, consent, kink, queer community, and the role sexual literacy plays in personal and collective liberation.
August 20-21, 2026
The S.L.A.M. Conference is a sexuality education and social justice conference that centers the experiences, leadership, and scholarship of Black, Indigenous, and People of Color while welcoming attendees of all backgrounds. Bringing together educators, clinicians, advocates, artists, researchers, and community leaders, S.L.A.M. explores sexuality as a pathway to healing, liberation, cultural transformation, and collective care.Through workshops, panels, storytelling, and community dialogue, participants engage critical conversations about pleasure, consent, identity, relationships, and sexual well-being through intersectional, culturally responsive, and justice-oriented frameworks.
Upcoming Virtual Workshop:Sex, Consent & AIHow artificial intelligence is reshaping sexuality, relationships, consent, and sexual literacy.September 18, 2026 • Live on Zoom
SEX ED W/ STEPHTrauma-Informed
Shame-Free
Award Winning
Sex Ed-
Steph Zapata has facilitated workshops, trainings, keynote presentations, and educational programs for schools, universities, healthcare systems, community organizations, libraries, conferences, and youth-serving agencies across the United States and internationally.Who I Work With:Middle & High Schools
Colleges & Universities
Community Organizations
Healthcare & Mental Health Professionals
Parents & Caregivers
Conferences & Professional Associations
Public LibrariesSelected organizations include:Rutgers University • Planned Parenthood • Advocates for Youth • Healthy Teen Network • Amplify Tulsa • National Sex Ed Conference • NYU Langone PRYDE & SAFE Programs • Connecticut College • Virginia Tech • Antioch University • New York Public Library • Vienna International School • Brooklyn Friends School • Colorado Sexual Health Initiative • Teen Health Mississippi • NYC DHS Youth Services • and morePopular Topics Include:• Consent & Boundaries
• Healthy Relationships
• Queer & Trans Inclusion
• Porn & Media Literacy
• Reproductive Justice
• Online Safety
• Pleasure-Centered Education
• Anti-Racist Sex Education
28+
Community, Visibility & Play-
For Lesbians, WLW & SapphicsSapphic City was created from a simple belief: we don't stop needing community just because we're no longer 21. As lesbians and sapphics get older, opportunities for connection often become harder to find, even while the desire for friendship, belonging, romance, visibility, and joy remains. Through intentional events and shared experiences, Sapphic City helps create the community many of us wish existed when we were searching for our people.What You'll Find Here
• Social Mixers & Happy Hours
• Dance Parties & Perreos
• Speed Friending & Community Building
• Watch Parties & Group Outings
• Seasonal Celebrations & Pride Events
• Online Community SpacesCome to dance, come to laugh, come to connect.
Come solo, leave with community -
Because whatever your age - you deserve a fulfilling social life too.
👻 OCTOBER 30: SAFAERA SÁFICA III — PERREO PARANORMALThird time's the charm...Or the curse.Walnut Bar & Grill | The Bronx
Friday, October 30 | 9PM–3AM
30+Lesbian-Centered | Sapphic |
Trans-InclusiveAnd after two wholesome weekends on the farm...
WE'RE ACTING UP. 👻Your favorite grown & sapphic perreo is BACK FROM THE DEAD for Halloween.Just because we're grown and well-seasoned doesn't mean we don't want a good night out to shake ass too.We're taking over Walnut Bar & Grill for six hours of dark lights, loud music, sweaty bodies and sapphic Halloween foolishness.🎧 DJ NEMO playing the millennial classics we grew up shaking ass to + the new-school perreo we love now.💃🏽 Masc + femme go-go dancers — BRING YOUR SINGLES TO TIP 'EM.🔮 Tarot readers🍹 Halloween + sapphic-themed cocktails🎃 Costume contest w/ spicy prizes💄 Last-minute costume props + makeup🌈 Glow bracelets for flirting, friendship/dances, or "I'm with my girls, respectfully leave me alone."👯 New-friend-making icebreakers🎲 Ridiculous sapphic party games, including BOBBING FOR COOCHIE🍬 Tricks + treats
🌿 420-friendly outdoor smoking + a 420 vendorAnd yes, costumes are encouraged but NOT required!
🍎 OCTOBER 17: SAPPHIC CITY DOES HARVEST MOONHarvest Moon Farm & Orchard |
North Salem, NYMeet us at 1PMFamily-Friendly | Kids Welcome, Never Required
🚗 CAR/CARPOOL REQUIRED🥃🍺 IT'S BBQ, BEER & BOURBON
FEST WEEKEND!Bring the kids and make it a family day.Bring your boo and make it a fall date.Bring your friends and make it a road trip.Or come solo and meet us there.
🎃 OCTOBER 10:
SAPPHIC CITY PUMPKIN PATCH DAY
Queens County Farm Museum | QueensMeet us at 3:30PM
Family-Friendly | Kids Welcome, Never RequiredWe're kicking off fall with a cozy afternoon at Queens County Farm Museum!
Meet us at 3:30PM so we have plenty of time to wander the Pumpkin Patch before it closes at 5.Pick your pumpkin, visit the farm animals, grab some cider + seasonal treats, take your obligatory fall photos, and meet some new sapphic friends.Then once the sun goes down...
🌙 MAZE BY MOONLIGHT!At 6PM, we'll take on Queens Farm's three-acre corn maze after dark.
Bring a flashlight and let's see how many sapphics it takes to successfully escape a cornfield.
😂🌽
Please note that 'Sapphic' is intentionally used as a TRANS/NB inclusive term.
Coaching: Pleasure, Relationships &
Personal ExplorationLife doesn't come with a manual, and neither do relationships, intimacy, communication, or personal transformation. Through coaching and consulting, I support individuals, couples, and professionals as they navigate desire, boundaries, confidence, power dynamics, relationships, leadership, and the messy, beautiful process of becoming more fully themselves.Sometimes that means helping someone step into their confidence as a Dominant, submissive, brat, or kink practitioner. Sometimes it means helping partners deepen intimacy, strengthen communication, or navigate changing relationship structures. Other times, it means working with educators, clinicians, and service providers to better understand kink, BDSM, consensual power exchange, non-monogamy, and LGBTQIA+ communities so they can support the people they serve with greater competence, confidence, and care.Rooted in curiosity, compassion, and accountability, this work creates space for deeper self-awareness, more meaningful connection, and lives that feel more aligned with our values.
Workshops • Speaking • Coaching • Consulting • Event Collaborations